FISH ON THE MOVE

First off I wanna thank Liam, who is part of the gaming group that I play with on a regular basis for the wonderful profile picture I use the game.

For those of you that have been following my blog, you all know that I play Rise of Kingdom (a mobile game). I have been playing with the same group for almost 2 yrs. We talk on discord on a regular basis.

When I first started using discord I was really afraid to talk, because this group didn’t know my gender identity and I didn’t want them to use the she/her pronoun. I sound famine and I knew that this would be their first instinct. So before I even talked I made them aware of my gender identity. It took some explaining and a lot of teaching on my part. However, during these last two years every single one of them are using non-binary pronouns when referring to me on discord and in game chat. The difference between the two is discord is on voice and in game chats are typed.

I feel that since they do this others that are aware of gender identities pick up on it and start referring to me in the right manner.

That being said. Every now and then we decide to leave the kingdom we are in to improve our gaming situation. So just recently we decided to make one of these moves. Every time we do this I become anxious, because it feels like the people in the kingdom we are leaving have gotten use to using the right pronouns and know we are going to have to teach new people all over again.

This time I am even more nervous, because I have started taking hormones and my voice is slowly changing. In fact my group has noticed a change in my voice. So my thoughts are what pronoun are people going to use? Does it matter? How long will it take them to learn? Do I wanna wait to talk on discord until my voice has totally changed, so it isn’t confusing to the new group of people that I will being talking to every other week?

You probably are thinking why should this matter me? I don’t see these people every day of my life. Well the reason it matters is this group is a community to me. It’s like the church community i have had to teach, the epilepsy support group i am still teaching, and the people in my neighborhood I’m teaching as well. The more people I can teach the better it will be for people like me.